The problem is huge to the man stuck in the hole, but to the man outside with a ladder, not such a big deal.
Before I get into everyone’s issues that they need help with, I think it is important to cover some things first. Hopefully by now you have read about my favorite phrase, Believe, Perceive, Repeat. Well, in regards to helping others, people asking for help, and even getting help myself, we must be on the same page.
I believe, that all problems have a solution
I believe, that every problem originates from a source
I believe, that EVERY problem has happened before, and been fixed
In order for me to help you
You must believe that I or someone else has the ladder
You must believe that there is a solution to your problem
You must WANT to fix the problem
How do you kill an oak tree if you do not have a saw? Dig out the roots, or poison them. If there is no source of food, the tree withers and dies. Likewise, if you find the source of a problem and remove it, the problem will wither and die.
Many people have been dealing with one or more issues for so long that they do not remember it any longer. These issues continually affect them and grow over time. A parent dies or leaves them, twenty years later they can’t figure out why they have trust issues with their partner. Someone holds another person up at gun point and robs them, now they are afraid to leave the house. It can be something as simple as watching a scary movie as a child, and now they are afraid of the dark because of it.
Seeing how so many people respond positively to placebos drugs and also hypnosis makes me conclude that a good number of these problems are merely superficial, or made up. For some people, acting sick is a way of getting sympathy, and attention, which they probably learned as a baby. Since they were babies, they were taught that crying or complaining will get them whatever they want, as long as they stop crying. This sounds rationale to a lot of people for some reason, but it is actually the result of bad parenting.
There are so many bad parents out there it is sickening to me. Baby cries, mom over-cuddles, baby feels sick, mom over-cuddles or gives a pacifier. Infant cries, he gets fed a treat, infant complains, he is told to watch TV. Juvenile cries, he is given a play-station, juvenile demands puppy, he is given a puppy. Now we have teen crying, he gets a car, teen doesn’t want to go to school, he pretends to be sick. Adult cries, people feel sorry for him, a generation of adults complain, they change the moral laws.
Am I the only one that sees a trend here? Believe, Perceive, Repeat. They believe that X behavior will produce Y result. They perceive this as truth as mommy or daddy comply to every wish and demand, and they repeat this until mommy and daddy are no longer around. NOW, the real problems start because the real world does not accept their beliefs(which overpower theirs), and then they cease to perceive the desired results. (getting what they want)
What is my point? First off, you must understand that many of your issues and problems originate from the above paragraph, and may be painful to face. You must also be able to accept the BLUNT TRUTH about your situation and follow the directions given. The above paragraph is the LAZY way to get through life, but I will expect nothing less than 100% of your effort. If this is not acceptable, keep your problems to yourself, or find a shrink that will do psycho-analysis on you for the next 20 years at $100 per hour, with less than 30% chance of success… or pop you with so many pills you don’t even know what reality is any longer.
-bryan